We are constantly told by parents, teachers, adults, and others that confidence is one of the keys to success. That sounds nice, but we can’t just snap our fingers and become more confident.
Gaining self-confidence is a difficulty that many people face, but we can all assist each other get through it if we work together. Rather than using bullying to bring others down to raise ourselves, we might help one another and be friends.
Do you have a friend that suffers from low self-esteem? Be a positive force in their lives by assisting them. If you go out of your way to assist them, your friends may go on to achieve amazing things. Most people’s largest impediment to success is the crushing belief that they will fail and should not even attempt. Here are 7 things you may do to assist a friend in gaining confidence.
1. Make a complimentary remark
People are strangely terrified of complimenting others although it is such a simple thing to do. Giving praise does not imply that you are weak or irritating. Everyone appreciates receiving compliments because it helps them feel better about themselves.
Regularly complimenting a friend will make them feel better about themselves. It’s so powerful that a single compliment can shift someone’s perception of themselves and make them feel safer in their skin.
2. Make the Effort to Listen
Everyone is dealing with a problem. When you know someone for a long time, you can tell when something is bothering them. People, however, are reluctant to discuss their difficulties for fear of being labeled as a grouch or a complainer.
People need to talk about their problems to move through them, so beginning talks and genuinely listening to them can be extremely beneficial. These interactions must be free of judgment so that your friends can feel comfortable approaching you. This is not the time to cure their problems or criticize their decisions; rather, it is the moment to let them air their grievances.
3. Recognize the event that shattered their trust
He was the boyfriend who crushed our hearts. The toxic friend only felt good about themselves when they brought us down. Trolls who left deplorable remarks on your blog article.
It’s pointless to pretend these things didn’t happen, therefore accept them. Facing something head-on rather than allowing it to gnaw away at you from the side removes the power that thing has over you. I recall the doctor telling me, ‘Yes, you certainly have PND.’ I felt a surge of energy because I instantly realized who the ‘enemy’ was… and it wasn’t myself, as I had previously assumed.
4. Assist their leadership
Developing leadership abilities is essential for life, yet many people struggle to recognize themselves as leaders. Leadership opportunities arise more frequently than you might believe; seize them and assist friends in doing the same. Suggesting a weekend activity for you and your buddies makes you the “leader” in that decision. When you host a party, you become the party’s leader. Giving a presentation in front of the class elevates you to the position of classroom leader, even if only for a short time. There are also more traditional leadership roles, such as team captain, club president, and group project leader.
Aside from honing your leadership abilities, you can assist others who are in positions of authority. Attend significant events and offer loud support and favorable feedback. If you have a friend who is shy or avoids taking the lead, allow them to make minor group decisions and ease them into it.
5. Inspire Your Friends to Do Great Things
I never considered myself to be an excellent public speaker. I used to have a terrible lisp when I was little. I sounded more like a serpent than like a person.
So anytime my school held a public speaking event, such as a spelling bee or a poetry reading, I cringed. These kinds of events would put me on display on numerous levels, from practicing with a classmate to sitting in front of the entire school. I had a buddy who understood this, so when the notification for the annual Poetry contest came out, he encouraged me not to drop out because of my lisp. He wanted me to win the contest for my school and encouraged me every step of the way.
To cut a long tale short, I won the contest for my elementary school and went on to compete at the regional level. It may not appear to be a significant success to some, but it was significant for a child with a pronounced lisp. So be the friend who inspires people to take risks and achieve amazing things.
6. Consult with your mentors
We all have people in our lives who we look up to and respect their opinions, whether they are personal friends, family members, or coworkers. These people are good at telling us what we need to hear rather than spouting empty platitudes. As a result, we have implicit faith in them.
As a result, we believe them when they tell us we’re awesome.
7. Take a look at all of the amazing folks who think you’re awesome
Is there a better basis for confidence than unconditional love? Hopefully, your family and friends are like mine, since knowing that those wonderful people loved and valued me was a pretty decent indicator that I was a good mother, wife, and person. And it was a critical first step in regaining my self-esteem.
Recognize that it will take time
Most people who responded on Facebook suggested that it can take a long time to get things back to where they should be – even years! After all, when something erodes your confidence, it usually happens gradually and insidiously, so things can’t be corrected with the click of a button.
But there are instances when you have to take issues into your own hands. In the end, you can’t let an incident define you for the rest of your life, and there came a time when I realized I could just choose not to let that event harm me or my perception of myself.